THE SOCIETY OF MILITARY WIDOWS (SMW) was founded in 1968 by Theresa (Tess) Alexander to serve the interests of women whose husbands died while on active military duty, of a service-connected illness, or during disability or regular retirement from the armed forces. SMW is a nonprofit organization chartered in the State of California under section 501 (c) (4) of the Internal Revenue Service Code.

All military widows who are eligible for membership are encouraged to support the Society of Military Widows by becoming a member, whether or not they can attend meetings. Our political leverage is in our total membership on a national basis. The more members we have, the more important we are to elected members of Congress. In 1984 SMW affiliated with the National Association for Uniformed Services (NAUS) to make a stronger organization, working to protect the hard-earned benefits and entitlements of military widows. The affiliation allows for membership development, administrative efficiency, and Washington representation.

SMW: Benefits widows of members of all branches of the uniformed services of the United States.

Gives moral support, advice, referral service and, in general, help the widows of career military members to return to the main stream of normal living.

Educates the American public concerning the problems and needs of military widows in today's society, and Preserves the basic truths and enduring principles on which the government of the United States is founded.

After the casualty officer and the caseworker have gone home and the paperwork is finished, how do you get through the lonely hours? As a military survivor, you very often face problems your civilian counterpart does not. The death of your spouse may be followed by a change of residence and separation from the network of support you have come to expect in the armed forces. You need someone who can help you through this difficult time.

Grief is a natural healing process that must be lived through. As military widows, we are here for you -- to help with your problems, as a support network, as friends, and, sometimes, simply a shoulder to cry on.

If you have specific questions related to your spouse's death or about your rights and benefits as a military survivor, please contact us at 1-800-842-3451, Ext. 1011 or 1003, or email us and we will ensure that your question is directed to the person or agency best able to answer it.

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October 2016 
We – some seventy of us - were at the 38th SMW convention in San Antonio, Texas . . . enjoying each other’s company at the historical Menger Hotel, downtown, located right across the famous ‘Alamo‘ (Davy Crockett /Santa Anna) where we did take walks along stretches of the restaurant-lined San Antonio River or rode the tour-boats and/or Cinderella coaches (illuminated) at night.
The sightseeing double decker busses, also leaving from Alamo Plaza,
provided an hour insight
to “the heart of Texas“
with about 18 opportunities
to get off and on.
On Saturday (10/15),
our final day,
new SMW officers were installed for a two-year term.
More information later.